We’ve looked at self-sabotage here before – now let’s look around us!
Recently I was sat around a table with some of my clients. We were discussing how to succeed with our healthy living plan and how we’d only do so, by clearly identifying what might hold us back. I asked for their ideas about what could stand in their way (so you can then do battle with each issue) - and the answers were enlightening to say the least!
And, I often notice through talking to my gals - how true! We learn so much by each other.
It seems the more successful you are, the more those around you might have something to say! Have you noticed that when you’re making bad food choices, puffing up a hill or generally disregarding yourself no one says a word, but as soon as you start to hit the gym, run, make good decisions when you’re eating out, or look buff it’s often remarked upon?! (I was saying that WE’RE seen as the freaks)! Check out these statements: “Don’t lose any more weight – you look like you’re on drugs!”…”all you do nowadays is hit the gym”… “You’re getting boring to eat out with”…”Go on – have a little drink. Loosen up a little!”…”do any more weights you’ll start to lose your femininity”… Rest assured – if you’re hearing these kind of statements you’re on the road to success! You’ll lose the old lifestyle (and possibly these ‘friends’ ha!), and start to mix in more supportive circles.
Indeed as your confidence grows you may even start to unsettle an insecure partner – I always remember a quiet, unassuming woman who used to come to aerobics who discovered she could MOVE (boy could she – a natural dancer – she had no idea this was buried so deep)!
She gained confidence, got a belly button piercing to express this - and then poof! - disappeared. Months later I spotted her and asked if she was ok? Her hubby had insisted she stopped exercise as the baby missed her for this ONE slot away in the week.
Don’t let the insecurities of others undermine you! Keep at it and see you at the finish line!